Carl Bovender

April 10, 1941 - October 22, 2022

Carl Bovender, 81, of Winston-Salem, passed away at his residence on Saturday, October 22, 2022. He was born in Winston-Salem on April 10, 1941, to the late Charles A. Bovender, Sr., and Della Brinkley Bovender. He was the ninth of ten children. In addition to his parents and grandparents, he was preceded in death by his brothers, C.A. Bovender, Jr. and wife Lois, Chester Bovender and wives, Alice and Frances, Curt Bovender and wife Frances, Rev. Coy Bovender and wife Clois, Clyde Bovender; sister, Opal Shouse and husband Mims; brother-in-law, Glenn Spaugh; and stepmother, Louise Bovender. He is survived by his wife of 56 years, Sandra West Bovender; son, Scott Bovender (Mary Jo Bauer); sisters, Irene Cheek (Bobby) and Carol Spaugh; brother, Leroy Bovender (Shirley); sister-in-law, Opal Bovender; brother-in-law, David West (Melanie); and many nieces, nephews, and cousins. Carl was raised in Southside Baptist Church. He graduated from Gray High School in 1959, where he was a football and track star. He attended Wake Forest College and graduated from Elon College in 1965. Carl worked for McLean Trucking Company for 25 years and Wachovia Bank for 20 years in technical support. Carl and Sandra were married June 25, 1966, in Asheville, NC. They were foster parents for Family Services for 10 years for 25 babies. Carl loved college football and the Atlanta Braves. He was a faithful and active member of Ardmore Baptist Church for as long as his health permitted. A graveside service will be held at 2:00 pm on Friday, October 28, 2022, at Oaklawn Memorial Gardens led by Rev. Tyler Tankersley, Dr. Gina M. Brock, and Dr. Paul Mullen. In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to Ardmore Baptist Church, 501 Miller Street, Winston-Salem, NC 27103, or a charity of the donor's choice. The family would like to thank Dr. Steven Klein and his staff for their compassionate care all these years and Trellis Supportive Care for their excellent care of Carl. Hayworth-Miller Silas Creek Chapel is serving the family of Mr. Bovender. Online condolences may be made at


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11/01/22 08:09 AM #1    

Mike Nelson

I had the pleasure of working with Carl for most of his Wacovia career in Tech Support.  He was the original proponent for work-life balance.  Early in our acquaintance, we were faced with a critical online outage and our team was expected to work all night to get things corrected.  Carl flatly stated "I'll work days or I'll work nights but I can't work days and nights".  We all looked at him and instantly realized he was right.  If all of us stayed overnight then there would be no one to cover any problems the next day.  We wisely split our forces and sent half home to get some rest.  We tag-teamed the next morning and the fresh troops took over.  I never forgot that incident and the common sense approach that Carl took and used it many more times in my career.   RIP, Carl.  He was one of the many fine people that I worked with in my years at Wachovia and those memories are what made it all worthwhile.      


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